Yesterday, I finished a book on my summer reading list by Judy Ford entitled Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled, and Independent. Normally, I would deny ever having read this type of book but the content intrigued me because for the first time since freshman year of college I am completely unattached and on my own. I freely admit that I go through bouts of loneliness (I mean who doesn’t), boredom, and moments where I don’t feel like I have anything to look forward to. I seem to attribute those feelings to the lacking relationship in my life and after reading this book, I find that really sad because singleness offers so many choices and opportunities. I found this book to be really inspirational and for anyone whose gone through a breakup, divorce, had their heart broken, is a single parent, or has just been single for awhile – I would recommend reading this. There are many things Ford said in this book that struck a chord with me. Here are a few of them.
1. Wasting energy wishing for something you don’t have while ignoring all that you do have is a vicious mental trap.
2. A wonderful adult life begins when we face the reality of our aloneness squarely.
3. Singleness beseeches us to take care of our inner needs, to pay more attention to our center, to love our very own self. Singleness urges us to take exquisite care of our life.
4. Singleness is not fatal.
5. Lonely and alone is preferable to being lonely with someone around.
6. Everything that happens to you is your teacher. The secret is to learn to sit at the feet of your own life and be taught by it. -Polly Berrien Berends
7. There are many wonderful things that will never be done if you do not do them. -Charles Gill
8. We need both companionship and solitude. We need others and ourselves. We need time together and time alone. It’s not one or the other – it’s both.
9. Whether you’re single or in a romance, individuality is a basic ingredient for happiness.
10. I have learned not to worry about love, but to honor its coming with all my heart. -Alice Walker